Superwomen Unite!

I blinked… and it was September. How the heck did that happen? Seriously?? Well – here we are – and it’s time to get down to business.  My next message will be all about that. But today is just for the superwomen in the house… you know who you are!  Hopefully, this will give you a chuckle and help you take a breath. You deserve it!


Recently I happened on a post I wrote awhile back entitled “Owning The Cape.” It’s about the struggle to be superwoman… A subject I’ve dealt with literally all my life.  Funny that I should happen on it a day when I’ve made several minor mistakes. Left my cell phone at home… Then the car. Missed 3 (Count ’em… 3!) Trains on the process. A bumpy start to say the least.

On my way to work I begin to think about my amazing tribe of superwomen. Some are more balanced than others. Lately, I’ve been feeling a bit off kilter. I’ve made some decisions to slow my roll a bit. But then I start feeling like a slacker. Sound familiar? If this is you – take a moment and BREATHE. This message is for you.
Here are a few things we can do to maintain our sanity.

  1. Breathe. Literally. Sometimes we get in “fight or flight” mode and can even tense up and stop breathing! Take a deep breath. Take another one. Put on some music while you work. Walk around the block. Give yourself some space.
  2. Cut yourself some slack. Why are we so hard on ourselves? Nobody’s perfect, yet somehow we bought into this image that keeps us acting as if we have to keep up a façade of competence, strength, and courage. Allow yourself to be human.
  3. Get help. This is the hardest thing for us to do!  But it’s so important.  Delegate (and then LET GO). Hire help if you need to, or find services that will help lighten your load.
  4. Find ways to connect and refresh. Today I had lunch with a dear friend. We laughed about my fumbled start to the day. It was good to be with someone who ‘gets it’. Connect with people who care.
  5. Indulge in things you love. This can be big or little. A day in with jammies and a new book or binge watching Netflix. Buy flowers for yourself. Chocolate lover? Get some of the good stuff on occasion. Life is for living!

Now, take another deep breath. Feels good, doesn’t it? I know you are slaying dragons, knocking down walls and leaping tall buildings with a single bound. But you have to be good to yourself in the process.
Much love… Trina

Here’s the blog I wrote in 2010. I hope you enjoy it!

PS. Are you struggling with your cape? Or feeling the urge to do more? Join me and other wise and fabulous women on a new journey





You can have what you want in life….

… if you are willing to do some things differently.

Hello my friend!

It’s been awhile since I’ve written. Life has been a whirlwind of activity, as it goes sometimes.  And how are you? I pray things are going well in your life.


Today’s message is about Intention and Focus.

I truly believe that you can have what you want in life. That doesn’t mean you will have EVERYTHING YOU WANT, EXACTLY WHEN YOU WANT IT. That also doesn’t mean that bad stuff doesn’t happen along the way. And admittedly – sometimes it’s REALLY BAD.  And we have to push and lean on our faith and others to get through it.

The truth is – life is a roller coaster ride. There are some wonderful high points, and there are some lows. It’s what you do with the rest of it that helps steer your course.

Some people believe that life is crappy and the best we can do is try to weather the storm. I have a good friend who often uses the phrase “You will have what you say.” I think that’s very true. It’s another way of expressing the Law of Attraction.  Another often-used term is, “What you focus on expands.”


I have a question for you.

What are you focusing on?

Do you spend more time bemoaning the bad things that happen, thinking about the past, or blaming others for your circumstances? This is known as “victim mentality” and it is a very disempowered place to be. People who have this world view stay stuck and don’t realize their own inherent power.


It’s time to take back your power.

Here are a few suggestions.

Turn negative statements around. Instead of saying “I can’t do it,” say “I’m not sure how I’m going to do it, but I can figure it out!” Think of a few of the negative things you say to yourself and try re-framing your attitude about the situation.

Limit your exposure to energy drains. Sometimes there are people and situations who steal your joy and keep you from believing in yourself. It may be at your workplace – a toxic person or a boss who doesn’t support you. It may be a family member or friend who is constantly negative or drains your energy by leaning on you too much.  Whatever the source, YOU HAVE THE POWER to change the dynamic and limit your exposure. In some cases it may mean getting a new job or cutting ties with someone (or realizing that you can limit the conversations you have with them).

Make plans for the future – and then ACT. Sometimes we want something different in our lives but we don’t know how to go about getting it. This is where plain old hard work and determination are required. If you want something, you can’t just wish it into being. You can pray about it, but you also have to DO SOMETHING to move things forward. Carve out the time and energy to figure out how to make the first step toward your goal. Sometimes it will require education, a mentor, a coach or an accountability partner to help you stay in forward motion.

ARE YOU READY TO TAKE ACTION? Your future is waiting!

If you are STUCK and DISEMPOWERED, I invite you to take time out for your life! As a coach it’s my job to support and encourage people on their journey. Let’s get to know each other!

  1. Schedule a complimentary introspection coaching session with me and let’s find ways to shift your energy so you can enjoy life more. Just email me at and we can get started. I look forward to talking to you!
  1. I’ve launched a new community on Facebook for women just like you! It’s a positive group of fun-loving women who are ready to live on their own terms. Join us!

Until next time – yours in joy and possibility….




The Dangers of Living on Auto-Pilot

Life comes at you fast. It can be full of ups and downs. There’s some good and some bad. And sometimes you end up just plain tired – stressed and overwhelmed. And you might want something to just go on predictably for a change, right? Maybe? Or maybe not so much.

live for today

How’s your life going? Do you feel like you’re on top of your game and things are going well? Or are you starting to feel that nagging sensation that there’s got to be more? Or do you  feel like it’s time for a change – but you might be a little bit afraid or a lot afraid of doing what it needs to be done in order to create that change? I feel you. I’ve been there. Many times.

Today I just want to encourage you about not getting lulled into the complacency of autopilot. Because here’s the tragedy. The tragedy is that many, many people live their lives on autopilot. They wake up, get dressed, go to work or go about their days – business as usual. One day blends into the next and blends into the next and you look up in five years have passed. You think about all those dreams and all those ambitions that you had once upon a time. You might start to think maybe it’s too late.

But let me say something to you loud and clear! It is NEVER TOO LATE!

It’s never too late to try something new.

It’s never too late to pursue your passion.

It’s never too late to say yes to your soul.

If you are ready to say yes to your soul and to pursue something that has been tugging at your heart for a very long time – IT IS TIME TO START.

It’s time to take a risk.

It’s time to step out of your comfort zone.

It’s time to take yourself seriously and honor your truest desires.


Come with me and let’s take this adventure together! Because after all – it’s YOUR life, and you have a say! And it is time to JUST DO YOU!

Many blessings to you and yours from in from my heart to yours.  I pray that you will create the life of your dreams. If anything in this message inspired you to think about something different, to do something different, to make a bold decision – I encourage you to reach out to me.

Email me at, and let’s set up a time to talk about how you can take things to the next level in your life. I look forward to speaking with you!

Yours in UNLIMITED possibility,

Trina Ramsey

Career & Life Strategist,

Founder, The Just Do You! Institute for Women’s Development

@PerspectivePlus (on Twitter and Periscope)