Superwomen Unite!

I blinked… and it was September. How the heck did that happen? Seriously?? Well – here we are – and it’s time to get down to business.  My next message will be all about that. But today is just for the superwomen in the house… you know who you are!  Hopefully, this will give you a chuckle and help you take a breath. You deserve it!


Recently I happened on a post I wrote awhile back entitled “Owning The Cape.” It’s about the struggle to be superwoman… A subject I’ve dealt with literally all my life.  Funny that I should happen on it a day when I’ve made several minor mistakes. Left my cell phone at home… Then the car. Missed 3 (Count ’em… 3!) Trains on the process. A bumpy start to say the least.

On my way to work I begin to think about my amazing tribe of superwomen. Some are more balanced than others. Lately, I’ve been feeling a bit off kilter. I’ve made some decisions to slow my roll a bit. But then I start feeling like a slacker. Sound familiar? If this is you – take a moment and BREATHE. This message is for you.
Here are a few things we can do to maintain our sanity.

  1. Breathe. Literally. Sometimes we get in “fight or flight” mode and can even tense up and stop breathing! Take a deep breath. Take another one. Put on some music while you work. Walk around the block. Give yourself some space.
  2. Cut yourself some slack. Why are we so hard on ourselves? Nobody’s perfect, yet somehow we bought into this image that keeps us acting as if we have to keep up a façade of competence, strength, and courage. Allow yourself to be human.
  3. Get help. This is the hardest thing for us to do!  But it’s so important.  Delegate (and then LET GO). Hire help if you need to, or find services that will help lighten your load.
  4. Find ways to connect and refresh. Today I had lunch with a dear friend. We laughed about my fumbled start to the day. It was good to be with someone who ‘gets it’. Connect with people who care.
  5. Indulge in things you love. This can be big or little. A day in with jammies and a new book or binge watching Netflix. Buy flowers for yourself. Chocolate lover? Get some of the good stuff on occasion. Life is for living!

Now, take another deep breath. Feels good, doesn’t it? I know you are slaying dragons, knocking down walls and leaping tall buildings with a single bound. But you have to be good to yourself in the process.
Much love… Trina

Here’s the blog I wrote in 2010. I hope you enjoy it!

PS. Are you struggling with your cape? Or feeling the urge to do more? Join me and other wise and fabulous women on a new journey





The Dangers of Living on Auto-Pilot

Life comes at you fast. It can be full of ups and downs. There’s some good and some bad. And sometimes you end up just plain tired – stressed and overwhelmed. And you might want something to just go on predictably for a change, right? Maybe? Or maybe not so much.

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How’s your life going? Do you feel like you’re on top of your game and things are going well? Or are you starting to feel that nagging sensation that there’s got to be more? Or do you  feel like it’s time for a change – but you might be a little bit afraid or a lot afraid of doing what it needs to be done in order to create that change? I feel you. I’ve been there. Many times.

Today I just want to encourage you about not getting lulled into the complacency of autopilot. Because here’s the tragedy. The tragedy is that many, many people live their lives on autopilot. They wake up, get dressed, go to work or go about their days – business as usual. One day blends into the next and blends into the next and you look up in five years have passed. You think about all those dreams and all those ambitions that you had once upon a time. You might start to think maybe it’s too late.

But let me say something to you loud and clear! It is NEVER TOO LATE!

It’s never too late to try something new.

It’s never too late to pursue your passion.

It’s never too late to say yes to your soul.

If you are ready to say yes to your soul and to pursue something that has been tugging at your heart for a very long time – IT IS TIME TO START.

It’s time to take a risk.

It’s time to step out of your comfort zone.

It’s time to take yourself seriously and honor your truest desires.


Come with me and let’s take this adventure together! Because after all – it’s YOUR life, and you have a say! And it is time to JUST DO YOU!

Many blessings to you and yours from in from my heart to yours.  I pray that you will create the life of your dreams. If anything in this message inspired you to think about something different, to do something different, to make a bold decision – I encourage you to reach out to me.

Email me at, and let’s set up a time to talk about how you can take things to the next level in your life. I look forward to speaking with you!

Yours in UNLIMITED possibility,

Trina Ramsey

Career & Life Strategist,

Founder, The Just Do You! Institute for Women’s Development

@PerspectivePlus (on Twitter and Periscope)

Do You Have the Holiday Blues?

… Acknowledging and Combating the Holiday Blues

Hello friends,

I pray that you are enjoying the holiday season. But today’s post is directed at people who are not having such a good time right now. The holiday blues is very real. There are people who are suffering right now. Some of us have lost love ones and are having a hard time feeling happy about anything. Some are dealing with other losses like divorce or broken relationships and are working to pick up the pieces. And there are people who are generally suffering from the winter blues (Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD), which is serious condition that plagues many in our society.

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If you fit into any of these categories, today’s message is just for you. I encourage you to do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself. Some well-intentioned people will try to pressure you into joining in the festivities even if you don’t feel like it. It’s okay to opt out if you’re just not in the mood. However, I do encourage you to find other positive ways to take care of yourself. Here are some ideas:

  • Do something nice for yourself! Go to a spa. Get a manicure or pedicure. If those aren’t in your budget draw a luxurious scented bubble bath and soak your cares away. Take a Mental Health Day from work and watch movies all day or cuddle in bed with your favorite book or a stack of magazines any chocolates! The point here is that you do have choices – and there are lots of ways to take care of yourself, even if it doesn’t mean immersing yourself in the fullness of the holiday spirit.
  • Connect, give and/or serve. It’s a well-known fact that giving of our time or resources and our love and support does volume for lifting our own spirit. Charities find themselves overwhelmed with people who are in the giving and volunteering spirit this time of year. So if you actually have a hard time finding a big place to volunteer right now, find some small ways to contribute. If there is someone in your neighborhood or church community who is having a hard time, reach out to them. Drop a card or a meal or treat, even if it’s something that you didn’t make yourself. Call up someone in your family or a friend who lives far away that you really care about and who you know just hearing their voice would lift your spirits (and vice-versa!)
  • Change your surroundings. Sometimes getting away from it all is a big help. You can do this solo or you can in this a travel buddy to go with you. When I was going through my divorce I would take drives to a nearby cities near water, which is one of the things that soothes my spirit. Annapolis is one of my favorite spots. Even if I didn’t have the funds to go overnight I would take a day and drive there. I’d walk around and maybe have a nice meal and window shop. Maybe there are some friends or relatives that live close enough for you to drive to and spend a day or two with even, if it’s not on the actual holiday.
  • Above all – give yourself permission to feel the way you’re feeling. It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to not feel in the mood to attend the various functions taking place. It’s not okay to isolate yourself and just wallow in the negative feelings. So whatever you choose to do, give yourself permission to make that choice. Because after everything is said and done, you are in charge of your life, and you don’t have to please other people with the choices that you make.

God bless you and yours this holiday season. And remember… JUST DO YOU!

Much love,

Trina Ramsey

Career & Life Strategist, & Just Do You Institute for Women’s Development

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