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It’s Time To Take Back Our Power!

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It’s been on my heart to discuss the sharp uptick in angst, anger, and dismay over the upcoming transition of power. It’s been a very difficult time for many as we watch in horror the things that have transpired since the election. Twitter fights, bullying, unnecessary aggression and devaluing of citizens lives, as legislators rush to dismantle cornerstones of our democracy and leave the public hanging high and dry… people they were elected (and paid very well) to protect and serve. It’s scarcity mentality at the utmost level.

Personally, I’ve had difficulty dealing with it as well – I cycle between anger, frustration, and sheer disbelief – along with what I have coined “Election Induced Tourrete Syndrome” – the compulsion to yell and curse in response to news commentators and public figures. Anyone else?

But I’m here today with good news.

WE CAN TAKE BACK OUR POWER. WE MUST. This moment in American history is like none other, and we cannot afford to stand back and take it.

  • If you’ve been wringing your hands, worrying and shut down, it’s time to shake it off and get into action.
  • If you’ve been waging wars on Facebook and Twitter, it’s time to turn that energy towards those in power and hold them accountable.

WE THE PEOPLE are in charge of this democracy. We own it. And we MUST step up to the plate. There have been other regimes around the world where tyrants have taken over, and people have survived. Resistances have formed. People find a way to thrive and stand for each other. It is no longer appropriate to sit back and wait for THEM to fix things. We are the leaders the worlds been waiting for. Each of us. It’s time to get to work.

What you can do:

  1. Like a good friend says, “Get local”. Volunteer for a cause you believe in. Get involved in local politics. Heck – run for office yourself! You have no idea the power that you possess. Be a part of the solution.
  2. Use your voice. Lobby your elected officials (at all levels) for the changes you stand for. Defend policies that are under attack. Be vigilant. Be fearless. There are many great organizations that stand for “the people” where you can amplify your voice – such as Common Cause, ACLU, People for the American Way, Color of Change, NAACP, Planned Parenthood and many others. Get involved. You don’t have to have all the answers.
  3. Take care of yourself, your family and your community. Life goes on. Enjoy life and embrace the people around you. Pray, feed your spiritual life and connect with like-minded people. Count your blessings and do what you can in the spaces you occupy.
  4. Be the change. Start something new. If you see a problem, find new ways to fix it. Step up in leadership. Use your gifts and talents to inject positivity and creativity into the world.
AND REMEMBER….

If it’s to be, it’s UP TO ME.
The people, united, can never be defeated!

NOW is the time to step up to the challenge before us. WE CAN DO THIS. WE MUST. Future generations are depending on us. We can’t let them down.

Uplevel Your Resolutions 7 Day Challenge

uplevel-resolutions-narrowARE YOU INTIMIDATED BY NEW YEARS, RESOLUTIONS, goal setting and such? Or maybe you try to do TOO MUCH? Sometimes we make things TOO COMPLICATED.

Are you ready to say good riddance to 2016… and start anew?

It’s time… to UPLEVEL and Rock Your Resolutions!

Starts January 5!

Join the challenge today! http://bit.ly/UplevelResolutions

Join this FUN challenge and dig into your New Year’s resolutions and goals, with insightful daily activities and an intimate, supportive group. This challenge will allow you to examine your mindset about New Year’s resolutions and goal setting, focus on your top three goals for the year, and develop a specific action plan.

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A note from Trina

Why I decided to do this:

My personal mission is to help people to live full, joyous and authentic lives. I love the energy of the new year – goals, new beginnings, UPLEVELING. But I gotta be honest with you – I have a personal bias AGAINST resolutions. I think we tend to pile them on and burn out quickly. Instead of creating a laundry list of all the ways your life will be perfect in the new year, think about what will be the BEST thing for you to focus on, that will improve your life, your business, and your levels of peace, you and fun.

How this challenge is different: in 7 days we will examine all of these things and develop a specific action plan for each person. Then we’ll keep our Facebook group open so that we can continue to support one another.  

Sound good? Join the party! http://bit.ly/UplevelResolutions

Here’s to an AMAZING 2017!

Yours in unlimited possibility,

Trina Ramsey

Career & Life Strategist

http://www.MyCoachTrina.com

trina@mycoachtrina.com

Why Wait Until 2017? #LifeIsNow

Yes…. It’s October already. The days are getting shorter and the temps are dropping. The holidays will he here before you know it.

How is 2016 going for you? Take this quick poll.  Which number fits you?

  • 1: YUCK… I just want this year to be over.
  • 3: IMPROVING… It was rough but things are turning around.
  • 5: SO-SO… A mixed bag. But I’m ready to move forward.
  • 7: Not bad… Not amazing; but things are going ok.
  • 10: FANTASTIC! This has been my year!

If you are having a tough year, I encourage you to do whatever is necessary to take care of you and your family. Sometimes all we can do is get through it – one day at a time. But whatever you do – don’t go it alone. Many of us will suffer in silence and not want to burden others – when that’s exactly what we need. If you need to lean on others – do just that. There is no shame. They care about you.

And if I can do anything to support you – just let me know, ok? Seriously. Send me a message and let’s talk!

If you want the future to be better than the past – I can support you. As a matter of fact, I put together a little something with special pricing JUST FOR MY PEEPS.

Finish Strong! 2016 is not over yet!

I’m offering a special program for anyone who wants to tackle something and see results by January. So… If you have some unfinished business this year, you can still do something to turn the tide. Choose JUST ONE THING to focus on – either to jump start a new goal or regain momentum on something you’ve started, but now need to cross the finish line. Only you know what it is.

HERE’S HOW IT WORKS: 

This is a 2 month, 1-on-1program. Start now and you can be done before the holidays! This is the same coaching I offer, at a bit of a slower pace (2 sessions per month), and focused only on 1-2 goals.

What you get:

  • 90 min kickoff Power Session
  • 3 bi-weekly 60-minute calls
  • Weekly email check-ins
  • Free workbook: Designing the Life You Deserve
  • This is just what you need: Personal. Results oriented. Future-focused.

LET’S DO THIS!  For details email trina@mycoachtrina.com

Superwomen Unite!

I blinked… and it was September. How the heck did that happen? Seriously?? Well – here we are – and it’s time to get down to business.  My next message will be all about that. But today is just for the superwomen in the house… you know who you are!  Hopefully, this will give you a chuckle and help you take a breath. You deserve it!

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Recently I happened on a post I wrote awhile back entitled “Owning The Cape.” It’s about the struggle to be superwoman… A subject I’ve dealt with literally all my life.  Funny that I should happen on it a day when I’ve made several minor mistakes. Left my cell phone at home… Then the car. Missed 3 (Count ’em… 3!) Trains on the process. A bumpy start to say the least.

On my way to work I begin to think about my amazing tribe of superwomen. Some are more balanced than others. Lately, I’ve been feeling a bit off kilter. I’ve made some decisions to slow my roll a bit. But then I start feeling like a slacker. Sound familiar? If this is you – take a moment and BREATHE. This message is for you.
Here are a few things we can do to maintain our sanity.

  1. Breathe. Literally. Sometimes we get in “fight or flight” mode and can even tense up and stop breathing! Take a deep breath. Take another one. Put on some music while you work. Walk around the block. Give yourself some space.
  2. Cut yourself some slack. Why are we so hard on ourselves? Nobody’s perfect, yet somehow we bought into this image that keeps us acting as if we have to keep up a façade of competence, strength, and courage. Allow yourself to be human.
  3. Get help. This is the hardest thing for us to do!  But it’s so important.  Delegate (and then LET GO). Hire help if you need to, or find services that will help lighten your load.
  4. Find ways to connect and refresh. Today I had lunch with a dear friend. We laughed about my fumbled start to the day. It was good to be with someone who ‘gets it’. Connect with people who care.
  5. Indulge in things you love. This can be big or little. A day in with jammies and a new book or binge watching Netflix. Buy flowers for yourself. Chocolate lover? Get some of the good stuff on occasion. Life is for living!

Now, take another deep breath. Feels good, doesn’t it? I know you are slaying dragons, knocking down walls and leaping tall buildings with a single bound. But you have to be good to yourself in the process.
Much love… Trina

Here’s the blog I wrote in 2010. I hope you enjoy it!
http://tramsey09.blogspot.com/2010/09/owning-cape.html

PS. Are you struggling with your cape? Or feeling the urge to do more? Join me and other wise and fabulous women on a new journey http://bit.ly/JustDoYouInstitute.

IT’S TIME – TO JUST DO YOU.

 

 

 

What We Can Learn From Prince #PrinceDay

I originally wrote this piece within days of The Purple One’s untimely death. But after all the speculation on cause of death, estate, etc., I decided to hold onto it until his birthday, which was on June 7. He would have been 58. Many of us were shocked and overwhelmed at the news. However, I was also very encouraged when I learned of some the little known facts of how he conducted his life. So I came up with this list of lessons we can apply to our own lives.

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  1. Live your truth… unapologetically. (Authenticity) Prince lived life on his own terms – always. It meant he made some controversial decisions, and sometimes pissed people off. But he was true to himself – 100%. We can all learn from this.
  2. Contribute (Generosity) Prince was very philanthropic, but kept his good works out of the limelight. After his death, many stories came out about the extent of his generosity, including environmental causes, and supporting youth learning about computers, among other things. He was also devout in his faith life, and kept that personal as well.
  3. Connect and bring others along (Mentorship). After his death there was an outpouring of sharing among people he had supported and encouraged in their careers. Some of his protégés included Alicia Keys, Janelle Monet, Carmen Electra, along with more well-known connections like Vanity, Sheila E and The Time
  4. Live out loud! (Outrageousness) Party like its 1999! Need I say more? Prince SLAYED with every fiber of his being. No limits, no boundaries. And it worked like a charm!
  5. Embrace your gifts and passions. (Live on purpose) Prince was clear about who he was in the world, and was completely committed to his music… and it showed!
  6. Work it! Prince was a hard working brother! (Drive) We’ve now heard about the vault of music, with many years’ worth of unreleased material, and how he often slept in studio. When you love what you do, the work is easy to commit to.
  7. Embrace change. (Reinvention). We all know the many faces, styles of dress and musical personas that Prince developed over the years. A reminder to us all to keep it fresh!
  8. Innovate! (Entrepreneurship) Prince constantly thought outside the box. He was always creating opportunities, and was very protective about his brand and music. We all remember the “slave” tattoo and him adopting a symbol as his identity.
  9. Plan your legacy.(Preparedness) Sadly, this last lesson is a cautionary tale. Prince had built a sizeable empire, and there is doubt as to whether he left any estate plans, which is unbelievable. But as we all know, tomorrow is not promised. At 57, I’m sure that he thought he had plenty of time, but one never knows.

In closing, take time for what, and who matter in life. Live on purpose and embrace your destiny. There will never be another Prince Rogers Nelson, but we certainly learn by how he showed up in the world and made us all take notice. Sadly, his story ended much sooner than it should have.

Here’s to life…. Abundantly!  #JustDoYou

Much love always,

Trina Ramsey – Career & Life Strategist, MyCoachTrina.com

P.S. A footnote on #9: I have a friend who is working on helping people to plan their legacies TODAY. Please contact me if you would like an introduction.

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You can have what you want in life….

… if you are willing to do some things differently.

Hello my friend!

It’s been awhile since I’ve written. Life has been a whirlwind of activity, as it goes sometimes.  And how are you? I pray things are going well in your life.

 

Today’s message is about Intention and Focus.

I truly believe that you can have what you want in life. That doesn’t mean you will have EVERYTHING YOU WANT, EXACTLY WHEN YOU WANT IT. That also doesn’t mean that bad stuff doesn’t happen along the way. And admittedly – sometimes it’s REALLY BAD.  And we have to push and lean on our faith and others to get through it.

The truth is – life is a roller coaster ride. There are some wonderful high points, and there are some lows. It’s what you do with the rest of it that helps steer your course.

Some people believe that life is crappy and the best we can do is try to weather the storm. I have a good friend who often uses the phrase “You will have what you say.” I think that’s very true. It’s another way of expressing the Law of Attraction.  Another often-used term is, “What you focus on expands.”

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I have a question for you.

What are you focusing on?

Do you spend more time bemoaning the bad things that happen, thinking about the past, or blaming others for your circumstances? This is known as “victim mentality” and it is a very disempowered place to be. People who have this world view stay stuck and don’t realize their own inherent power.

 

It’s time to take back your power.

Here are a few suggestions.

Turn negative statements around. Instead of saying “I can’t do it,” say “I’m not sure how I’m going to do it, but I can figure it out!” Think of a few of the negative things you say to yourself and try re-framing your attitude about the situation.

Limit your exposure to energy drains. Sometimes there are people and situations who steal your joy and keep you from believing in yourself. It may be at your workplace – a toxic person or a boss who doesn’t support you. It may be a family member or friend who is constantly negative or drains your energy by leaning on you too much.  Whatever the source, YOU HAVE THE POWER to change the dynamic and limit your exposure. In some cases it may mean getting a new job or cutting ties with someone (or realizing that you can limit the conversations you have with them).

Make plans for the future – and then ACT. Sometimes we want something different in our lives but we don’t know how to go about getting it. This is where plain old hard work and determination are required. If you want something, you can’t just wish it into being. You can pray about it, but you also have to DO SOMETHING to move things forward. Carve out the time and energy to figure out how to make the first step toward your goal. Sometimes it will require education, a mentor, a coach or an accountability partner to help you stay in forward motion.

ARE YOU READY TO TAKE ACTION? Your future is waiting!

If you are STUCK and DISEMPOWERED, I invite you to take time out for your life! As a coach it’s my job to support and encourage people on their journey. Let’s get to know each other!

  1. Schedule a complimentary introspection coaching session with me and let’s find ways to shift your energy so you can enjoy life more. Just email me at trina@mycoachtrina.com and we can get started. I look forward to talking to you!
  1. I’ve launched a new community on Facebook for women just like you! It’s a positive group of fun-loving women who are ready to live on their own terms. Join us! http://bit.ly/JustDoUFBGroup

Until next time – yours in joy and possibility….

Trina

@PerspectivePlus

MyCoachTrina.com

 

The Dangers of Living on Auto-Pilot

Life comes at you fast. It can be full of ups and downs. There’s some good and some bad. And sometimes you end up just plain tired – stressed and overwhelmed. And you might want something to just go on predictably for a change, right? Maybe? Or maybe not so much.

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How’s your life going? Do you feel like you’re on top of your game and things are going well? Or are you starting to feel that nagging sensation that there’s got to be more? Or do you  feel like it’s time for a change – but you might be a little bit afraid or a lot afraid of doing what it needs to be done in order to create that change? I feel you. I’ve been there. Many times.

Today I just want to encourage you about not getting lulled into the complacency of autopilot. Because here’s the tragedy. The tragedy is that many, many people live their lives on autopilot. They wake up, get dressed, go to work or go about their days – business as usual. One day blends into the next and blends into the next and you look up in five years have passed. You think about all those dreams and all those ambitions that you had once upon a time. You might start to think maybe it’s too late.

But let me say something to you loud and clear! It is NEVER TOO LATE!

It’s never too late to try something new.

It’s never too late to pursue your passion.

It’s never too late to say yes to your soul.

If you are ready to say yes to your soul and to pursue something that has been tugging at your heart for a very long time – IT IS TIME TO START.

It’s time to take a risk.

It’s time to step out of your comfort zone.

It’s time to take yourself seriously and honor your truest desires.

ARE YOU READY?

Come with me and let’s take this adventure together! Because after all – it’s YOUR life, and you have a say! And it is time to JUST DO YOU!

Many blessings to you and yours from in from my heart to yours.  I pray that you will create the life of your dreams. If anything in this message inspired you to think about something different, to do something different, to make a bold decision – I encourage you to reach out to me.

Email me at trina@mycoachtrina.com, and let’s set up a time to talk about how you can take things to the next level in your life. I look forward to speaking with you!

Yours in UNLIMITED possibility,

Trina Ramsey

Career & Life Strategist, MyCoachTrina.com

Founder, The Just Do You! Institute for Women’s Development

@PerspectivePlus (on Twitter and Periscope)

The Value of Taking A Break

Hi friends! I pray all is well in your world, and that 2016 is starting out great for you. For those of us in the east coast, we were forced to slow down in the wake of #Blizzard2016. If you were affected, I hope your life is returning to normal.

Here’s a few things I was reminded of during the break:

  1. Family is priceless. Hold those you love close and enjoy time together when unusual opportunities present themselves. Lean into it and embrace the gift of fellowship.
  2. It’s good to get a break from the routine. I don’t know about you, but after the holidays, I charged head first into the New Year, returning to the fast-burning lifestyle that I realized was not good for me in 2015. Having time off gave me a break from the routine and helped me to reexamine this unhealthy practice.
  3. Take care of you – mind, body & spirit. I heard from a few friends how this was a great opportunity to be forced to slow down. People took naps, and I pushed myself on my fitness challenge – adding PLANKING to the mix. I pulled out my adult coloring books for a bit of fun, (any other coloring enthusiasts out there??) and watched some movies with the kids. Another friend caught up on her Bible studies.
The question is, why does it take a weather emergency for us to do these things?Because these are things we should be doing anyway.

If you are feeling like you CAN’T SLOW DOWN you may be trapped in a cycle of urgency that is downright self-destructive. Here are 2 things you can do about it!

  1. Schedule a complimentary introspection coaching session with me and let’s find ways to shift your energy so you can enjoy life more. Just email me at trina@mycoachtrina.com and we can get started. I look forward to talking to you!
  1. Try out my FREE program to rebalance yourself and GET MORE out of 2016. You’ll get a daily email from me with concrete steps to unlock the 7 Secrets to Making 2016 your BEST YEAR EVER! This is not about over-achieving – this is about reclaiming your quality of life. http://bit.ly/2016Kickstart
  2. I’ve launched a new community on Facebook for women just like you! It’s a positive group of fun-loving women who are ready to live on their own terms. Join us! http://bit.ly/JustDoUFBGroup

Until next time – yours in joy and possibility….

Trina

@PerspectivePlus

MyCoachTrina.com

What’s Your Why?

Here’s some food for thought, in honor of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr’s birthday.

I really want you to spend some time thinking about your life – what you are happy and proud of, and what you’d like to do differently.

Dr. King Knew His WHY…

Dr. King left a huge legacy. But he was not trying to be famous. He was trying to do what’s right. He stood up for not only racial justice, but peace and humanity. He knew his Why. He was crystal clear about what was at stake. And he was willing to go to jail, to lead others into harm’s way in the name of justice, and ultimately he gave his life for the cause.

Now, before you roll your eyes at me, I fully understand that most of us will not lead lives of this magnitude. On the other hand, many of us go through life on auto-pilot – getting pulled along life by random events. Sometimes we persist on a path that is not good for us – but we are too busy pushing to achieve a goal that is not one that we care about.

The truth of the matter is this – there are ordinary people who inspire us every day. You don’t have to be Dr. King, Steve Jobs or Mother Teresa to live an inspired life. Take a moment if you will and think about your life. Maybe even go back to your childhood. I bet you can think of someone who you admire. Maybe it’s a teacher, a doctor or nurse who is particularly well suited to their job. It can be someone who is in a service industry who goes above and beyond and always has something positive to say. They find a way to brighten your day at JUST the right time – when you needed a smile or a word of encouragement.

Time for some introspection…

What about you? To be clear, I’m not asking how inspirational you are. But I want you to consider how your life is spent.

  1. What’s most important to you? Is it apparent to the people around you? Some people claim that family is important, but spend so much time working that their children or significant others don’t get adequate quality time. Of course, sometimes you simply must put in the hours to make sure that your basic needs are met. But there are small choices we can make to honor those we care about.
  2. How do you spend your time and resources? Because truthfully – how we spend our days is how we spend our lives. Are you enjoying the ride? Are you taking care of yourself and making sure you take time for yourself and your loved ones? Are you using your vacation time and taking time to relax and rejuvenate?
  3. Is there something you want to do, experience or accomplish that you’ve been putting off until “the time is right”? Here’s the deal… life ticks by minute by minute, day by day. There is never a signal for “the right time”. If it lights you up and makes you feel more alive – make room in your life for it! If there is something that you want to contribute –find a way to make the time. Because for some of us “someday” never arrives. And let’s face it… at the end of our lives no one ever wishes they had worked more.

Please take a few moments to take stock of your life – and consider taking action on whatever it is that needs attention… your loved ones, that dream you had put on hold, or re-prioritizing your time and your health.

I say it all the time…. LIFE IS NOW. You owe it to yourself to make the most of it!

Many blessings to you and yours..

Your friend, Trina

A New Year and a Fresh Start

Tuesday, January 5, 2016              10:12 pm

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I’m proud of myself! Today I finished day 5 of my January fitness challenge – a 40 minute yoga session. The reason I’m excited is because last year I completely went off the wagon for my health and fitness goals – and have 10 extra pounds to show for it! Also, as the stress was mounting at work and I was putting more and more pressure on myself for my business, I got completely out of balance. I worked ALL THE TIME. As a coach I know how important it is to live a balanced life but I was so driven and focused on realizing my dream that I began forgoing some of the things that are important to me.

So as I was contemplating my goals for 2016, I decided to do something different to kick off the year. I usually set my health goals with a very prescriptive diet and a weight loss goal. It just didn’t feel right this time around. So I decided to be more action-oriented, and to set goals a month at a time. So instead of starting the year out at the gym like many people, I decided to set a challenge for myself to get some form of exercise in each day of the month – at a minimum of 15 minutes.

The first 3 days were simple because it was still the holiday weekend. I knew that I would have to up my commitment when I got to the workweek. Monday – first day back at the office, I managed a 15 minute walk in the afternoon, so that was good. Today was more of a challenge. Lots of meetings at work. When it got to 8 pm on my way home, I decided I couldn’t miss a day – so I put one of my Turbofire CDs on when I got home. Triumph! Getting through this day deepened my resolve to not let anything get in my way to complete my challenge!

Here are a few lessons I learned.

  1. It’s never too late to get a fresh start. Sometimes we get caught up and need to give ourselves another chance. What do you need to push the ‘reset’ button on?
  2. Balance is crucial to our health and well-being. I allowed myself to get too far out of balance. And while I love my business, it’s not good to forego your health in pursuit of work. I am glad that I decided to make space in my life for what’s important

So what about you? What do you need to do to reclaim your health, peace and serenity? Take a moment and decide today to do what needs to be done to reclaim it for yourself.

How are you doing on your 2016 goals?

Check out this FREE self-guided program to help you focus on what’s important this year. Click here and you’ll get daily emails from me to guide you along the process, as well as some other cool opportunities in the coming weeks. http://bit.ly/2016Kickstart

Also – feel free to reach out to me if you want to talk through any of your goals. I offer a free “Kickstart” session.  Email me to book an appointment: trina@mycoachtrina.com.

Have a fantastic day!  Until next time,

Trina

www.mycoachtrina.com

@PerspectivePlus (on Twitter & Periscope)